Turn the other cheek.
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tj_rowe... works extremely well as psychological revenge. The attacker gets so confused, and lies awake at night wondering just when and in what form you will take your real revenge.
First time I employed this non-violent technique was in third year music, when a girl hit me over the head with a recorder. As soon as she did it, I just smiled at her until my ears stopped ringing, then took the recorder out of her hands. Then I walked away. I swear, she nearly wet herself with fright!
Of course, I was the most feared person in our year at that point - the bully-kids lost their power during second year, and I was known to still be dealing as though I was still fighting them. And it had only been three years since I was in state school. Meh. At least I've grown slightly less infamous since then... Anyway, back to the story.
When you decide to not invite a person to your party, and discuss your planning of said party at every opportunity, the correct response to a neutral comment pointing this out (Specifically, on the fact that everyone else is talking about this party: "Am I the only one here not invited, then?" with the intention of finding someone with whom to talk about anything else) is not: *puppy eyes* "But I thought that you wouldn't enjoy it!"
Oh no. If you just don't want me manking up your party by getting tired quickly, have a fear of drunken girls-who-like-girls, have a numbers limit or just plain don't like me (the explanations that make most sense in this instance), tell me so.
I can't stand cowardice like this.
Oh, but it's for your benefit! Ha fucking ha. I've told you a million times that I despise charity comments. I'm starting to see why Oliver dislikes you, and seeing things from his point of view is never good.
So my reaction will be feigned nonchalance, and an invitation to my 18th. Y'know, when I get around to actually planning it. ^^; (I'm thinking hiring out the Football Club/Liberal Club/Village Hall + Dad's side of the family + random selection of 6th Formers.)
First time I employed this non-violent technique was in third year music, when a girl hit me over the head with a recorder. As soon as she did it, I just smiled at her until my ears stopped ringing, then took the recorder out of her hands. Then I walked away. I swear, she nearly wet herself with fright!
Of course, I was the most feared person in our year at that point - the bully-kids lost their power during second year, and I was known to still be dealing as though I was still fighting them. And it had only been three years since I was in state school. Meh. At least I've grown slightly less infamous since then... Anyway, back to the story.
When you decide to not invite a person to your party, and discuss your planning of said party at every opportunity, the correct response to a neutral comment pointing this out (Specifically, on the fact that everyone else is talking about this party: "Am I the only one here not invited, then?" with the intention of finding someone with whom to talk about anything else) is not: *puppy eyes* "But I thought that you wouldn't enjoy it!"
Oh no. If you just don't want me manking up your party by getting tired quickly, have a fear of drunken girls-who-like-girls, have a numbers limit or just plain don't like me (the explanations that make most sense in this instance), tell me so.
I can't stand cowardice like this.
Oh, but it's for your benefit! Ha fucking ha. I've told you a million times that I despise charity comments. I'm starting to see why Oliver dislikes you, and seeing things from his point of view is never good.
So my reaction will be feigned nonchalance, and an invitation to my 18th. Y'know, when I get around to actually planning it. ^^; (I'm thinking hiring out the Football Club/Liberal Club/Village Hall + Dad's side of the family + random selection of 6th Formers.)
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Date: 2007-01-28 08:58 pm (UTC)I employed passive agression as punishment for that, and I continue to use it almost a year later. Will I be in a good mood? Will I bite her head off for asking me a question? Who knows!
But that's okay, because she's had a lot of luck with the cool new friends, the ones who won't stand by her when she's upset because her grandmother died. She made a really good choice there.
Wow, I'm still really bitter.
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Date: 2007-01-28 09:17 pm (UTC)But it's not the non-invitation that's the main insult (though I've wanted to attend a masquerade since I was 13... *sigh*) - it's the lying. I'm used to exclusion, but friends (even estranged friends) deserve honesty; polite lies and passive aggressiveness are reserved for enemies.
... I guess she made the decision on what the relationship is now, huh?
Ooh, that's evil. Incidental 'friends' are good for discussing music and TV with, but are not the people you want as your safety net. *is glad for her big family*